David Navarro López

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Game over: Are we ready to die?

Game over: Are we ready to die?We are all going to die someday. 

This is a fact and one of the few things we can be sure as humans. 

Nevertheless, death is never present in our lives; we carry on doing things as it would never happen to us.

We use to be speechless when, for example, we see somebody who has been diagnosed a terminal illness. 

We have the feeling nothing we can say or do will make things better.

To this point, I am in the need to share something it happened to me.


In November 2003 I was diagnosed to have cancer in my right parotid gland.

This is a quite rare place to have cancer, and very dangerous too, due to its proximity and a shortcut to our brain and other vital parts of our body.

Along 4 months I did not find a doctor who was willing to operate me, adducing lack of experience and not willing to take the risk of not succeeding or provoking me bad side effects due to the operation.

Finally, I got to know a doctor who, for a huge sum of money and previously signing a letter on which I would not claim him in case side effects or lack of success, he agreed to do it. I got some chemotherapy sessions after that, and to date, I can say the thing is over.

During these 4 months, and until I got the great new that there were no more signs of cancer in my body, I faced death daily.

When some “expert people” speak about showing empathy to those who have a terminal illness, or to learn about negative things in our life, well, sometimes I can’t resist having a sardonic smile in my inner thoughts, thinking:

  • If you knew what is the feeling to wake up in the morning, giving thanks you did.
  • If you knew the pain of the doubt about not knowing if you are waking up again.
  • If you knew for sure many things you wanted to do, are never going to happen.
  • If you knew that death is not as frightening as not being alive.
  • If you knew that having a painful death is scarier than the death itself.
  • If you knew I am not interested in your empathy or compassion.
  • If you knew how painful self-regrets can be for things you did and you didn’t.
  • If you knew how it feels to see your loved ones suffering hopelessly for you.
  • If you knew how it’s like to see that even if you are still alive, you are already dead for the rest.

But I know the answers to all of above. And I am sorry, these I cannot share with anyone, unless he/she has had the same experience.

Then, I agree entirely with the words of Pascal Derrien

"It does not matter how you want to print your life drawings, it does not matter how you dress up your existence kit and it is not that I particularly like it, but have you ever thought that it is very possible that you and I may probably be nothing more than just CRAB MEAT? (see more here)

I am thankful to have learned this life’s lesson, and survive to take advantage of it.

This is why sometimes I write the things I do.

And I am sad to see that many people will spend (or waste) their lives to finally face death and make themselves the above-mentioned questions.

Do we really need to face death to give value to life?

Humans, crazy we are.



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Randall Burns

Randall Burns

vor 2 Jahren #22

Very impacting and heartfelt post David Navarro L\u00f3pez Yes I can relate to it. Well done

Lisa Gallagher

Lisa Gallagher

vor 4 Jahren #21

#28
I'm sorry for your losses Lisa Vanderburg, that had to be very difficult. You summed it up well, "Death offers freedom, but you are right to remind us of the how, why, where and what we leave behind!"

Lisa Vanderburg

Lisa Vanderburg

vor 4 Jahren #20

Thank you so very much for your generosity of spirit in sharing this, David Navarro L\u00f3pez, I looked after my father, then my most precious friend and sister during their dying. My sister was my refuge, strength and joy; we'd been life-long intimate friends held together in our damage. It really resonated when you said 'death is not as scary as living' - she felt the same, even though we'd long threatened to kill the other is they 'dare die before me'! Life is (in the main) a ball of pain. Death offers freedom, but you are right to remind us of the how, why, where and what we leave behind!

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #19

#24
Dear Lisa, you are spot on with your words "that person one may hold a grudge towards or be mean to may not be here tomorrow" The worst regret in life is not due to the things we did, but about the things we didn't. To re-establish a relationship is something should never be postponed

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #18

#22
This can be surely another reason

Lisa Gallagher

Lisa Gallagher

vor 4 Jahren #17

I'm glad you are here to share your story David Navarro L\u00f3pez. Not one of us can know what it's like to stare death in the face. I think some of us can imagine when we've seen others dying & die many times, but we can only imagine. My sister and her daughter both had cancer, they both stared death in the face and suffered greatly. They live one day at a time, I think I do too, knowing that we don't get out of this life alive. Thank you for being so honest, this is a great buzz on the truths of death/dying. Even small things like not holding a grudge is important to me because that person one may hold a grudge towards or be mean to may not be here tomorrow. As for what someone goes through emotionally, we can never know fully unless or until we face something ourselves.

Marisa Fonseca Diniz

Marisa Fonseca Diniz

vor 4 Jahren #16

#16
When I went through this experience I did as you did, I did not communicate to anyone, because I thought that the problem was only mine and only I would have to face it, I treated myself, I overcame the barriers of life and I healed myself after 20 years never Plus cancer has returned. We are never prepared to die, and your life experience is an example to other people who let themselves be overwhelmed by anything. Congratulations!

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #15

#20
There are more real beings that it seems. But they use to hide to avoid being hurt....

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#18
Very sensible you are dear David

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #13

#3
Thank you for your words, dear Ali. I like "it is during the dark times that our best comes out." I would add that only in dark times, some people are able to get the best out. But this is an option not everyone takes. And another option is not to wait to be in a dark time to make it happen

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #12

#10
The worse thing of it is that the people start not to see you as the person you have been until then, but something else you are not. I believe this is cruel.

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #11

#9
I sincerely think that our will to live is a key issue. I will confess one more thing about my experience. Until the final diagnosis said I got rid of it, I told nobody, not even my closest family, what was going on. The next day of the surgery, I had a shower and was ready to check out of the hospital hours before the doctor came to see me. Against his will, I checked out and went home. I did not accept this was going to happen to me. I accepted that there was a possibility I could not recover, but I did not surrender, and never will. Sometimes it works, sometimes not. But I know other cases on which people surrendered, and the body somehow knows it, allowing it to happen. Will not be my case. I am here, alive and kicking.

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #10

#8
This is precisely my point. Someone said that more important to know if there is life after death is to know if there is life BEFORE the death. Because many people live their lives as they were dead already, without, in your words, "a life lived with passion"

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #9

#7
Sonia, gracias por tomarte el tiempo de leer y comentar. Yo diría que no hay nadie valiente ante la muerte. Sobre todo si no la has buscado, si te llega de improviso. Sólo te quedan dos opciones: aceptarla o aceptarla. Rendirse es otra cosa.

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #8

#6
Yes Pascal, I remember your post about your experience, and therefore since then I felt somehow connected with you with a non-visible bond

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #7

#5
Gracias Javier, viniendo de ti, que lees mucho y de todo, me halaga la valoración que haces del buzz. Compartir estas cosas no me ha sido fácil, pero entiendo que hay mucha gente a la que le podría ser de utilidad, antes de que sea demasiado tarde.

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #6

#4
Look forward to your help for translating it to german

Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee

So familiar. I know these things well. I, too, am a cancer survivor though did not go through turmoil as hefty as yours. I also have MS--a daily death sentence that was always there, yet not so present until I knew for sure. "If you knew how it’s like to see that even if you are still alive, you are already dead for the rest." Yes I do.

Marisa Fonseca Diniz

Marisa Fonseca Diniz

vor 4 Jahren #4

Every cancer diagnosis is a very big shock for the recipient, worse when it is rare and the statistics are not at all favorable to the success of the treatment, but what matters is your willpower to live and not let down by the Negative prognoses. I speak from experience many years ago at the height of my professional career. I had a similar revelation, and I discovered that our will to live is that it makes us strong and overcome all problems throughout our lives. Sometimes we need to see death closely to appreciate the small things that happen to us in our daily lives. Congratulations you are a winner @David Navarro López.

Pascal Derrien

Pascal Derrien

vor 4 Jahren #3

thanks David Navarro L\u00f3pez for sharing such a personal experience I am no cancer survivor but I am a crash survivor I should not be here according to the doctors so my motto is every addtional day is a bonus not a day less to live , you know more than most .....

Javier 🐝 CR

Javier 🐝 CR

vor 4 Jahren #2

David Navarro L\u00f3pez what a great buzz! One of the best ones I have read til now. Thanks for sharing this personal story. Muchas gracias David, cuántas reflexiones de aquí... buaaa yo lo he tenido cerca también. Algún día - D.M- podré contarlo con alegría. Abrazo fuerte

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Dear David Navarro L\u00f3pez- what a great buzz that you wrote? Your deep insights and questions and experience with cancer are shockingly right and enriching. If you knew that death is not as frightening as not being alive. If you knew that having a painful death is scarier than the death itself. These two wisdoms turned my hair gray. Deep meanings and it is during the dark times that our best comes out. Great buzz and is rich with great meanings.

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