David Navarro López

vor 6 Jahren · 2 min. Lesezeit · ~10 ·

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The terror of being unaccepted

The terror of being unaccepted


Humans are social animals, and as such, we have the need to be accepted by others.

This fact obeys to another need, which is to reassure ourselves, to look for a confirmation from others about our own choices.

And more importantly, to complete “the big picture” of ourselves, due to the fact that our opinion of ourselves will be always subjectively biased by what we know or able see.

This need, if uncontrolled, can drive us to many situations on which we could even risk our life.


Our society is continuously reminding us what is “acceptable” and what is not.

It makes us aware of it and influences us through diverse channels.

Some of these channels are clearly manipulated by the “Powers That Be”.

For example, in Western cultures, to be thin is synonymous of beauty. In some countries, in the boundaries of the world of mode, to use extremely thin models have been banned, due to influencing people to fall in anorexia or bulimia, and thus, in serious health problems, including death.

We could differentiate three different concentric circles of influence.

  • Ourselves, our feelings and beliefs.
  • Our intimate circle, or family and friends
  • Our surrounding society, culture or country.

These three circles interact permanently along our life. This is a fact we need to accept in the first place.

Traditionally, puberty and adolescence, are the previous stages of maturity, on which a balance between the mentioned three circles is reached, giving birth to the kind of person we are going to be. Sadly enough, 80 years old adolescents can be found.

Any unbalance between these circles of influence, and its complex and delicate interactions can lead us to unwanted situations.

To empower our “ourselves circle” only, will cause the rejection of our surroundings.

To empower our “intimate circle” only, can drive us to feelings of emptiness, lack of purpose, and self-rejection.

To empower our “surrounding society circle” only, can distort the vision we have of ourselves and can cause the rejection of ourselves and our intimate circle.

It is difficult to put down a rule of thumb to know for every decision we take, which circle of influence should be taking the lead, but there are some invariable truths we can look at.

We need to be at peace with ourselves. This is especially delicate when our personality is to be formed, as we are pushing to understand and define ourselves. It is true we can forge our personality, and on the other hand, we can’t fight against our own nature permanently.

This lead us to one terrifying doubt: Am I as I think I am, or I am just confused??

It happens to be that in puberty and adolescence, sexual effervescence is quite powerful, while brain maturity is not complete. Unfortunately, at this stage of life, some acts driven by immaturity can’t be erased and can bring us unhappiness for the rest of our life.

In these cases, is when we really need to check the “other circles”, knowing that:

-The ones who love us, need no explanations

-The ones who hate us, don’t want to hear them

-The idiots will not understand them

When facing a major decision and having serious doubts about it, or when it will make a big change in our life, the best thing to do is to wait, if the people who love us tells us to do so.

In the end, the ones who love us will accept us as we are anyway, even if they don’t agree with us entirely because their only target is that we are happy.

Some decisions will provoke the rejection of the majority. If we are enough convinced of our decision, this should be not a problem, as in any case, there will be always someone who rejects us, no matter what we do.


David Navarro López

vor 6 Jahren #10

Everyone wants to be accepted, in more or less degree. Look forward to see the further "fruits of your thinking" In the mean time, please have a look here https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/new-hive-toxicity-at-work We are to write a buzz composed with as many experiences/thoughts as possible, and I am sure you have a lot to say.

David Navarro López

vor 6 Jahren #9

Thank you Donna-Luisa Eversley for sharing

David Navarro López

vor 6 Jahren #8

So true Fatima. Thank you for stopping by and sharing it

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

vor 6 Jahren #7

Only when we love ourself can we love other's. Only when we learn we can teach and only when we give we can receive. These I've learnt are the basic principles of the universe.

David Navarro López

vor 6 Jahren #6

Nobody will love us if we don't love ourselves, and nobody will respect us if we don't respect ourselves. To expand this love and respect from us to our surroundings reverts its effects, and create a flow between us and others of mutual love and respect. By ourselves, we can't achieve much. Even if we are self-confident and strong, it will come always a time on which we need from others. If we created this flow, it will be much easier and painless to get out of a bad situation, than facing it alone.

David Navarro López

vor 6 Jahren #5

Exactly, dear Pascal, that's the first step

David Navarro López

vor 6 Jahren #4

The fact is, Dear Ali, that I wrote this buzz due to a true story. A teenager I appreciate very much was very lost, and was in a very risky situation for its life, due to rejecting itself. Now has done a great step forward, first by trying to accept the own tendencies or nature, and secondly, by trusting and opening itself to the loving ones. Nobody, nor the teenager, know how it's going to end. But definitely, it is the way to keep going in life. To deny ourselves and to deny that we are social animals is the beginning of the end of a human.

Lisa Vanderburg

vor 6 Jahren #3

I have nothing but awe for those who know themselves, and this is a very good vantage point you've created here David Navarro L\u00f3pez! 'Am I as I think I am' - know it well. Others who have this as a constant refrain would so love to have your orderly wisdom replace it!

Pascal Derrien

vor 6 Jahren #2

Starting with ''We need to be at peace with ourselves'' the rets will follow :-)

Ali Anani

vor 6 Jahren #1

This is a cry from your heart David Navarro L\u00f3pez. Very interestingly, I am drafting a buzz with the initial title "Intoxicating Beauty". You give here one example of thin models. I shall refer also to toxic chemicals in cosmetics and beauty items as a metaphor for toxic ideas and new insights on toxic employees. Because of this strong relevance I shall refer to this buzz in detail in my forthcoming buzz. I celebrate the quality of thinking of your buzz my friend.

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