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Why being Optimistic can be more Realistic than being Pessimistic?

Why being Optimistic can be more Realistic than being Pessimistic?

When a Lion has hunted its catch out from a herd of zebras, and starts to eat it, most likely the rest of the herd will stop running and pasture quite close to the lion’s gory feast.

There’s no need to having fear from the lion anymore. Lion has got what it wanted, and after eating, will be too heavy and tired the next hours to keep on hunting.

If a Lion would hunt humans instead of zebras, after the first human being chased, the rest of humans would keep running like hell, thinking, “what if the lion had not enough?”

Optimism and Pessimism are uniquely human attributes, and to be one or the other is a personal choice.

Optimists tend to be labelled as unrealistic by Pessimistic, whilst, ironically, Pessimistic use to have fears to things that have never happened and very unlikely will happen.

We always remember the bee that has bitten us, and forget about the millions of bees never did.

When somebody tells us a good joke, it makes us laugh the first time. When we hear it for the second time, we might smile. The next twenty times we would not laugh anymore.

When we hear a sad story, we become sad too. Each and every time we hear the same story, we reach a similar level of sadness.

The difference between an Optimistic and a fool, is that the first one, although can see that things can go wrong, while having the same fears than a Pessimistic, does not succumb to his own fears, is more realistic about evaluating the probabilities of failures, uses bravery to face the obstacles and avoids them.

A fool does not want to consider the risks, and does not get ready to face them.

An Optimistic will always have more success than a Pessimistic, as facing the same problems, the Optimistic has not a disability the Pessimistic has: Is not afraid of failures, and sees them as a possibility to learn from them, instead of a basis to feel guilty or an excuse for inaction.


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David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 5 Jahren #11

Mamen Delgado I wrote Emilio Duró to ask his permission to produce a presentation based mainly on this speech. You can see it on the presentation credits Have fun http://www.slideshare.net/bicefablog/not-in-the-mood

Mamen 🐝 Delgado

Mamen 🐝 Delgado

vor 5 Jahren #10

#11
LOL!!! So funny David!! That's exactly the way I learned to ride a bike, even the drop when my father screamed "Don't worry, I'm still holding you!!". Yeahh, surely you are right about cheating ourselves (in general) because it's a question of energy and we can modify our energy doing so. There is a triangle I love: thoughts - feelings - acts. One is the consequence of the others and can modify our perception of life. Love what you say as well "Easy to say it, I must admit, but possible, I can assure". I can assure it also. I know Emilio Duró and he is so so great, and he says such a brunch of truths in such a funny way. I'm listening the conference in the link you have given below and it's simply fantastic!! "La mala suerte se pega", "Bad luck is contagious", so ironic... 😂 Thanks so much for bringing Duró to me again!! You made my day! 💫

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 5 Jahren #9

#9
Are we sure that to fake attitude or cheat ourselves has no point at all? It can well happen that we could fall in a point of life that the only option is to cheat ourselves, as everything we believed on, every assumption, every value, all we knew until this moment, is only worthy to sink us even more. So to get rid of our own fears and failures, sometimes it is needed to "cheat ourselves", like in the neuro-linguistic programming, and try to convince ourselves that we can go forward, even if we failed ever since we tried. To start from scratch is not easy. When i think about it, i remember the first time my father taught me to ride a bicycle without spare wheels (ruedecillas) He dismantled them, and said "keep on pedaling, i am holding your seat so you are sure" Beating my fears, I kept pedaling all along the promenade, believing my father was all the time holding me. But he only did it the first meters. The rest of the time I was on my own. Funny enough, when I realized it, I felt again. This taught me a great lesson. It is better to cheat yourself to beat your fears, rather than being cheated by another. You could take it as well as bravery. In my opinion, there are not missing pieces. Everything is there. Just "Temet Nosce". Know yourself is the answer, and take the correct choices accordingly. Easy to say it, I must admit, but possible, I can assure. BTW, if you liked Victor Kuppers, I am sure you have heard about Emilio Duró. If not, enjoy it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JsgoU_oobZM It changed my life.

Mamen 🐝 Delgado

Mamen 🐝 Delgado

vor 5 Jahren #8

#8
Absolutely ! The important part of it is "recognizing" as you say, be aware of what we feel and how we react. And try to do it with the less judgement as possible, just be conscious and choose. But it takes training, the best thing is that we can exercise just going out to the street, or at home with the family or even if we live on our own. We have tests every now and then... ✨

Mamen 🐝 Delgado

Mamen 🐝 Delgado

vor 5 Jahren #7

#7
Great slideshare David Navarro L\u00f3pez. As Victor Kuppers says in that wonderful lecture, attitude multiplies. But genuine attitude, I mean there's no way to fake attitude because we can not cheat ourselves, there's no point. So, where and what is the missing piece?? 😉

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 5 Jahren #6

#6
Completamente de acuerdo Mamen Delgado . To live in heaven or in hell is only a matter of choice. See more at : http://es.slideshare.net/bicefablog/heaven-or-hell-a-matter-of-choice

Mamen 🐝 Delgado

Mamen 🐝 Delgado

vor 5 Jahren #5

#3
Wonderful article David Navarro L\u00f3pez on this topic and I think it's a trend that each of us has to one side or another. Somehow our brain secretes a substance that makes some people always see the positive side of things. I have two daughters and one of them has a tendency to see the negative side, she is twelve years old and I work a lot with her, telling her that you can CHOOSE what you think, that thoughts do not just happen, you have power over them. But her tendency is to see the negative things. Maybe she can change her attitude for a while but if she gets caught with low defense, she will go back again with her tendency. That's how I see it... Lovely pic by the way!

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 5 Jahren #4

@Fatima Williams , thank you for your kind words. To get over the own fears is a self enhancement exercise which needs a lot of bravery. For many who never tried before, it might seem an impossible task to achieve. But is easier as it seems, once you started. Nobody said one needs to do it perfect the first time. Important is to keep on going. Children need sometime to learn walking, but eventually they will be able to run. It is an obvious true that if you get up one more time than the times you fall, you will be standing up. The final price worth the trouble. The price is self respect.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

vor 5 Jahren #3

Great story to get the message across David Navarro L\u00f3pez . Most humans tend to have fear of things that have never happened and are very unlikely to happen and even to try to make something happen. They tend to shy away from exploring the ocean of opportunities in front of them. This will make a great story to connect with Coaching individuals who tend to have the fear exploring themselves and going beyond. Enjoyed the read Thank you

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 5 Jahren #2

@Deb Helfrich I am happy you liked it. Some more points about it: Are we born optimistic or pessimistic by nature? Or is it something we learned? Can we Change this? You can find much more of it here: http://es.slideshare.net/bicefablog/not-in-the-mood The German version had almost 17.000 readings. Considering your profile and your points of interest, I am sure you will like it too. Enjoy!

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