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Where do we go from here?

Where do we go from here?To all those who have grown their children, when they finally start their own lives, it uses to come to this question. Growing a child or more it’s a lifetime hard work which can lead us to a huge emptiness once is done, if we forget some undeniable truths:

-Children do not belong to us, though we have the responsibility to help them finding their own way, to protect them.

-We cannot live our children’s lives, nor can’t they live ours.

-We cannot put aside our own individuality or our life with our wife/husband.

We cannot wait until they are gone to going on building our own life, ourselves.

I found very appropriate the lyrics of this Alan Parsons song:

"Games People Play"

Where do we go from here now that all other children are growin' up

And how do we spend our lives if there's no-one to lend us a hand

I don't want to live here no more,

I don't want to stay

Ain't gonna spend the rest of my life,

Quietly fading away

Games people play,

You take it or you leave it

Things that they say,

Honor Brite

If I promise you the Moon and the Stars,

Would you believe it

Games people play in the middle of the night

Where do we go from here now that all of the children have grown up

And how do we spend our time knowin' nobody gives us a damn”

Written by Alan Parsons, Eric Woolfson • Copyright © Universal Music Publishing Group

Alan Parsons Project Games People Play With Lyrics HD


It is us who need to figure out how we are going to spend our lives after being parents.

Because this is the most important last lesson we can give our children.



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David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #17

#21
happy to see you here

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

vor 4 Jahren #16

#19
Yes it is painful to watch. Wisdom tells us when we should speak but sometimes fear instigates conversations. Thanks for your kind words. I don't believe we ever cease to be parents. We phase into a advisory mode.

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #15

#18
Isn't it sad when you see them they are going to be in trouble due to their own fault, and you must hold back? To let them learn from their own mistakes? I find this the worst part, as before they get hurt, I already can feel in advance the pain they are inevitably going to feel...but one has tightened hands and has to even silence the "told you so's" and much more. I can tell you are a loving father.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

vor 4 Jahren #14

Empty nest is certainly one of the major epoch journeys of our existence. The transition from "parent" to friend is difficult, but a worthy journey. You thought the teenage years were the most difficult. The hardest thing i have ever done as a parent was not during the years of parenting, but holding back all the "I told you so's". Allowing the grown children to find life on their own experiences. Every once in a while we get to laugh about an "i told you so" because they bring it up. Great thoughts

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #13

#11
"Sometimes we get so caught up in raising our children that we lose our individuality." I agree we are not allowed to do that, as we could deliver the wrong message to our children. I haven't the pleasure to have grandchildren yet, but I hope I will

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #12

#10
As long as your wife gets on with it, I can tell you, these can be you real "golden years", with the wisdom of experience and still the power to do things.... Did you have a look at another post related to it? https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/get-started-adding-life-to-years I am sure you will enjoy it too

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #11

#8
Precisely this is why I wrote the buzz, because I see parents so blindly engaged on being good parents, that they forget about themselves. I do love Alan Parsons too

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#12
Yes, our grandchildren are our pleasure and memories. They are not our direct responsibility (or, we pretend it is not). yes, I agree with you Lisa \ud83d\udc1d Gallagher

Lisa Gallagher

Lisa Gallagher

vor 4 Jahren #9

#5
Grandchildren add another layer to our lives and if we remember we are the grandparents (here to enjoy, not raise kids anymore) the time is so precious and the kids seem to have more innocence than I was able to appreciate while raising my kids if that makes sense?

Lisa Gallagher

Lisa Gallagher

vor 4 Jahren #8

Excellent topic David Navarro L\u00f3pez

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#7
I always enjoy your thoughts and "adding life to years". Yes, the exchange of comments with you always adds "life to my years".

Mamen 🐝 Delgado

Mamen 🐝 Delgado

vor 4 Jahren #6

That's a very interesting question David Navarro L\u00f3pez, and I would even add where do we go when our children are growing up... The answer to this question will give a path to follow in our future. I see friends around, specially mommies, that put her lives apart while raising children, focusing all her energy in the babies and kids. The future will bring a mirror to face ourselves and we will pick up what we have harvested. Thanks for the music, love Alan Parsons!!

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #5

#5
Yes dear Ali, this is one of the reasons why I did write this post and another you have already seen, https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/get-started-adding-life-to-years

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #4

#4
Vincent, this is precisely what I did. When my daughter married, then I looked for a job abroad, and moved here to Germany, working in my passion, packaging machinery. And it is one of the best things I ever did. My colleagues use to ask why am I so happy while working, and I use to answer...I am not working anymore, I am retired, and developing my hobby...only that I get very well paid for it (LOL)

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

"It is us who need to figure out how we are going to spend our lives after being parents. Because this is the most important last lesson we can give our children". Our children shall then experience the same once they have grown up and have children. In our societies family ties are still strong (even though weaker than before). However; what a great question to ask David Navarro L\u00f3pez. We plan for retirement, but we don't plan for the "retirement of children responsibility. I invite dear Lisa \ud83d\udc1d Gallagher to comment because she is enjoying her grandchildren.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

vor 4 Jahren #2

Beautiful message David Navarro L\u00f3pez It is us who need to figure out how we are going to spend our lives. Love it.

David Navarro López

David Navarro López

vor 4 Jahren #1

Sara Jacobovici I am sure you will like this buzz

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